Maintaining a marriage is by no means something easy to accomplish. After all, when two completely different people with completely different likes and dislikes live under one roof; there are going to be a lot of problems. If you can get past your differences, it can be the best experience both of you could ever live. But, like I said, it's not an easy task. And we have a divorce rate that can go upwards of 80% in some states - so yes, things can get a bit tough! But do not lose hope, because it's in your hands to repair your marriage.
I have been taught (from the same source that saved my marriage) that the biggest marriage killers are not the fights, or not even the fundamental differences; but they are things one side does to "save" the marriage when they don't want a divorce. And come to think of it - it couldn't be more correct. Usually, when one side tries to "save" a marriage, they will cry, beg and plead to their spouses in hopes of a reunion out of "pity".
Now stop there a minute - would you really be OK with it if you knew that your spouse was with you just out of pity? Speaking of personal experience - I didn't care. I just wanted to save my marriage and I didn't care how - so yes, I did those begging, pleading, crying thing too. And what did it accomplish? Nothing. In fact, it made everything worse - when you're "heavily apologizing" to your spouse; he or she will realize that you are doing this in order to save your marriage, not because you have really understood your mistakes. And this will really ruin your credibility and make everything worse.
The correct thing to do is to first do away with the "desperate" stuff like those. These will only make you look pathetic and no one wants a pathetic spouse. You have to show your spouse that you are an independent individual, not someone who's so easy to have - don't forget, people want what they can't have!
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