Divorce has become commonplace and considered to be normal, even expected, in the United States. The reasons for break-ups are varied and numerous. Perhaps your wife has left, and you're wondering where you went wrong, but beating up on yourself will not improve the situation.
No matter who is more at fault, you may find yourself sleepless, angry, and sorrowful. Many emotions hit you all at once, and the grief can leave you emotionally drained and incapable to think about what the future might hold. Whether you wife left you for someone else, or emotionally they checked out, it can be possible to get your ex wife back. Throughout marriages, there are ups and downs, but most women will stand by their man through thick and thin. So, why do women leave their husbands?
When women exit a relationship, it's not, usually, because they don't love you anymore. Women leave because they feel emotionally abandoned long before the suitcases and boxes arrived on the scene. A woman's need to know they are loved and appreciated never subsides. And, how you display your appreciation and affection is important.
A woman needs to internalize that you contribute and put effort into making the relationship work. This can be as simple as keeping the communication lines open, giving little gifts or cards for no reason, or calling just to say "I love you." Think about it, most likely your wife has given you cards, or called to tell you she loves you, or surprises you with a special treat that you like. If you've gotten 'used' to these little tokens from your wife, and mostly took them for granted, it's time you woke up and started giving back.
Another reason your wife left might be because you didn't stimulate her mind, body or soul. Was is more normal to lock yourself in your 'man cave,' while your wife was left to find her own entertainment? Were you abrupt, gruff, or unkind when dealing with conflicts? Did you approach her in argumentative or accusing manners more often than not? When was the last time you smiled, winked, or flirted with her? If the marriage became stale and boring, this could be a reason she decided to pack up and leave.
Doubtfully it was always like this. What kind of people were you as a couple when you first got married? Things change, of course, but how did or what caused things to change for the worse? Two people must be allowed to grow and change within a marriage. Couples need to have compassion and understanding. Without nourishment, love and relationships will die.
If you love your ex wife, and truly believe things can be rectified, then it is not too late. Your wife once fell madly in love with you, and it can be possible to get her love and intensity back again. If your feelings are genuine, don't let her get away.
If you're committed and want to rebuild the relationship, it will take work and dedication. The break-up did not happen over night, and it's unlikely that it can be put back together over night. So, if you're committed and serious about reuniting with your ex wife, time may be of the essence. Because, it's more than likely, if you don't take the first step to retrieve her, someone else will be more than happy to pick up where you left off.
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